I started this year by taking a trip to Nashville with Brian for a Professional Photographers of America conference. We took time, as we always do, at the turn of the year to plan for what was ahead. We are usually pretty specific with the goals and focus we want to have personally and as a business. This year felt different. We let things feel looser and less concrete. Little did we know how valuable that open-handed grip on plans for 2020 would be.

Our youngest son did not have a successful start to the school year in the school where we started him, though I think that trial run was valuable in more ways than I can count. We shifted gears at the semester mark, and he began homeschooling with me in January. That took a lot of time away from photography and writing, which we certainly did not anticipate in August. The transition home for him has been critical to his healing from trauma before he was in our family, but we have also learned that, at this stage, he requires a tremendous amount of time.

The first week of the pandemic, I fell ill, stayed couch bound for probably two months, and have never fully recovered. My kids all also started having peculiar medical issues during that time. We've spent most of this year having tests run on our bodies and our house, and tracking down what in the world is wrong with us. The best we can figure is that we are COVID long-haulers. We've remained at home for work and school (and everything else) since early March, and I've only been out of the house to photograph a small handful of times.

Over the previous summer, Brian and I felt like I would be doing more writing this year and sharing some of the resources building in our home about adoption, sensory integration issues, photography, and how these all interact in our lives. We weren't sure how that would all add up. And though we still aren't sure, I ended up having the perfect solution for this year and into next. I have been guest blogging for Found Families, an organization for which I volunteer as a photographer for fellow adoptive families celebrating the new additions to their families. I'll share links to what I've written at the end of this post.

A friend and Purple Lemon bride texts me occasionally and asks me questions that no one else does, but that I value tremendously. What am I doing to fuel my creativity? How am I expressing my creativity when I am not photographing? When even lifting my camera feels too exhausting and it stays tucked away, I am glad for reminders to use the gifts the Creator has given me. I have been coloring, watercolor painting, and planning out of the box homeschool lessons for my out of the box learner. I have been rearranging countertops, journaling, sketching, and learning how to style my kiddo's ever-lengthening hair in all kinds of ways he dreams up.

I have also been dreaming about a way to record the way I feel every day through color and teamed up with my dad in his woodshop to make a special way for me to incorporate that into my daily life with watercolors. I might share more about that process as I test it out at the new year.

I'm not certain how I'll heal or what I'll be able to handle in the coming days. That makes it challenging as January is rolling around once again, to know how I can plan for photography, writing, and any other pursuits. For now, we'll keep aiming for recovery and doing what I can. For those who have inquired, thank you for your patience and support.

Blog Posts for Adoptive Families and Photographers

• Ways to Incorporate Play into your Photography Session
• Helping your adopted child after a photo session
• Fostering Felt Safety as Photographers
• Preparing your Adopted Child for a Photo Session
• Taking Photographs of Multiracial Family Groupings
• Tips for Cell Phone Pictures of your Multiracial Family

As winter started to wind down, I thought we really had it made as a family. We’d avoided a lot of the nasty sicknesses, and as a house with immune deficiencies, that’s a big deal. I didn’t go to the hospital. Then, we slipped into the neverending sickness. Thankfully, none of them were especially dangerous, but it did force me into much needed rest and much time cuddled up on the couch, wrapped in blankets.

Between bugs, I accompanied my parents on an amusing outing to buy underwear. I ventured off alone for a few minutes and saw this book propped up on a display. In the Company of Women: Inspiration and Advice from over 100 Makers, Artists, and Entrepreneurs by Grace Bonney. I snapped a photo, and upon returning home requested it from the library. The next day, I popped in and picked it up.

Reading about these various creative women and entrepreneurs has been really fascinating. As you might expect from a collection of creative individuals, the answers to their interviews are varied and rather scattered across the board. The two big threads I’ve seen I really agree with.

The favorite thing people love about their workspaces is the natural light. If you haven’t been into the office to see it, the light is the first thing people mention when they come in (besides my wall-sized crazy purple desk!). I have two full walls of just windows.

The thing people want more of is real connection with people through relationships.

When I saw this particular quote that was answering the question, “What does success mean to you?” it resonated with me and my business.

How many times have you seen me use these exact words? These are all really important values to me. These things aren’t a trend, aren’t going to leave, and regardless of direction of my creative endeavors, these qualities are marks of what I hope my life and my work is. This is what I want to leave behind.

This has led me to reflect a bit on myself as a creative maker, artist, and entrepreneur.

A few years ago, I felt like God was helping me understand the value of my work as an artist. Sometimes it’s easy to negate the value of my work because it’s not a necessity. But God made the world through both a balance of creativity and order. I think that is one reason why I love photography. It is consistently both artistic and technical, orderly.

Sometimes the urge to create is so strong in me, I must do it right away. This is often messy, disorderly, and lacks much finesse. This is when my family endures a strange dinner or snack because I was reckless in the kitchen. I often veer off the course of recipes. Sometimes I’ve painted sloppy messes. Redecorated a chair with scraps from the basement. I’ve hacked a plant to scraps in the name of pruning. Or sidewalk-chalked alongside my children, deep in the dusty process.

Sometimes the urge for order is so strong in me, I must have it right away. Counters empty. Toys hidden, each piece with its set. Dust disappearing. Schedules organized. Routines established. And inbox emptied of all it can be.

But when they are together, it’s beautiful. The creativity sparks and maintains joy. It takes my breath away. It wasn’t just the messy process I needed, it was the combination that made something worth keeping.

The dinner gets eaten. The chalk gets washed away. The chair got covered in food stains (and frankly was kind of a neon shade) and it’s sitting on Craigslist right now. Construction paper paintings are recycled.

But the photographs taken with purpose. The crafted words written. The visions brought to life. Those get to stay, at least for a season. Those have both creativity and order, and hopefully reflect well the Creator.

Often at photography conferences we’re encouraged to do personal projects and allow ourselves creative freedom, not just creating what our clients want to have (or think they want to have). This year, I set a goal for myself that wasn’t just personal photography. I don’t want to keep only that part of my life fresh and creatively invigorated. I’d rather allow the whole creative being that I’ve been made to be to flourish through creative endeavors of many kinds.

My goal is that by the end of the year I have completed 5 projects that express my heart in mediums I enjoy: photography, sun printing, poetry, writing, and painting.

“As long as my work continues to foster joy, celebration, community, generosity, and simplicity, I’m on the road to success.” -Dana Tanamachi

Having a winter wedding? Even later fall or early spring wedding days can be rather chilly! Those cold days don’t have to mean all indoor photos. You just have to be prepared.

Outdoor photos in the winter can be so beautiful with softer light, possibilities for snow or ice, and they represent the special season in which your wedding takes places.

I work with my couples to make sure that our schedule provides for time outside before the sun sets early and without extended time outside.  We arrange for short spurts near their venues or vehicles where they can quickly warm up again.  We also make sure that we take plenty of lovely, indoor photos as well.

Ensure that members of the wedding party have proper footwear. Closed toed shoes and hose or tights are big helpers in keeping those feet and legs warm.

Don’t shy away from staying warm.  Use winter accessories to add interest to your photographs and bring in your wedding’s colors and personal style.  Men and women can sport scarves or gloves.  The ladies can wear shawls, cardigans or jackets with their dresses to keep them warm. 

Consider providing warming packs, like hot hands, to your wedding party to help them brave the chilly weather and coffee or hot chocolate instead of cold drinks when they are done.

Sometimes, we even schedule only photos of the bride and groom outdoors, keeping the photos of the entire wedding party indoors.

Either way, it’s a great time to focus on what’s beautiful in the winter, rather than what’s lacking.  Evergreens, openness of landscapes, your wedding venue, and architecture are all great settings for wintertime wedding photography.

Other favorite winter wedding ideas I’ve seen over the years are:

Including warm treats like s’mores and pies at the reception

Fire pits

Hot cocoa bars

Winter decor like pine trees, pine cones, and candles

Lap blankets for guests during the ceremony

See also my post Wedding Day emergency kits.

Inscribed in my wedding band is the phrase “none live for themselves.” This is a reminder to me of the vows we proclaimed on our wedding day. In addition to our traditional vows, we included extras that essentially say that we will be true to Christ, kind to people, and spread the gospel to the nations. When Purple Lemon Photography was created in 2008, its intent was to spur us on to fulfilling the promises we made for our marriage. This is particularly key to me as a photographer, since most of my work revolves around relationships and family.
 
Our goal is to use the gift of photography and the profits of our small business to help share kindness and spread the gospel while being true to Christ.
 
Locally, I have photographed for a variety of not-for-profit agencies on a volunteer basis, including those that work with the homeless, refugees new to St. Louis, and also inner-city youth, and newborns. 
 
I am a photographer with Red Thread Sessions which donates sessions to families who have newly adopted children at their homecoming, court date, or for a new family session. 

Additionally, I photograph babies in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) free of charge for their parents*. After having high-risk pregnancies, lengthy times on bedrest, and almost a month in the hospital, followed by a week of my oldest son in the NICU, my heart was softened for what I am calling “bedrest babies.”

Internationally, we aim to use the profits from our business to help support international missionaries and our personal international adoption costs. We have adopted from Ghana, and hope to continue to grow our family through adoption. To date, we have supported long and short-term missionaries in India, England, China, Nicaragua, Jordan, and Russia, emergency relief funds around the globe, and those serving the local church. We hope to continue to increase our ability to live generously and support those sharing the gospel.

Also, we know that missionaries frequently send out updates to their donors, meet with churches, and try to stay connected with families and friends stateside. In our current culture, photographs are crucial to newsletters and updates. Purple Lemon Photography will also do complimentary mini portrait sessions to these individuals and families who are on furlough and only have a short time in the states.

*This is specifically for families who are using PLP for their maternity or newborn photography.

As I’m in my fourteenth year as a wedding photographer, it is amazing to look back and consider the amazing DIY brides that I’ve photographed over the years.  We really cater to the DIY wedding couples who value photography, yet are looking to both express themselves and cut back on wedding expenses.

Here are my top handful of ways that you can showcase your own talents, personality, and family heirlooms on your wedding day without breaking the bank.

DIY Wedding Flowers

I’ve had countless brides who have put together their own bouquets, and they have all been charming, unique, and deeply personal.  I’ve seen them made out of broaches, paper folding, pinecones, silk and fresh flowers, and with all kinds of personal details.

DIY Wedding Decor

It’s always special when I hear about brides and grooms who have gathered friends and family together to create unique and meaningful decor for their wedding day.  Often it is for the reception and table decor, but even at the wedding venue we see many personal details shining through. Here are a handful of DIY backdrops and centerpieces that really stand out.

DIY Guest books

When I was a kid my parents stuck by the tradition of a guestbook on a stand by the front door.  As guests stopped by, they’d sign the book, and occasionally we’d go back through and reminisce about the people who had filled our home. Even today, though that tradition is rare, the wedding guest book still remains. In many weddings though, the book itself is often replaced with more personal or decorative options.

Some of my clients have used rocks, thumbprints, or plates for guests to sign.

One favorite DIY guestbook was a vintage copy of a favorite novel.

Though not entirely DIY, we offer a photo guest book that showcases engagement photography.  This is certainly personal and a keepsake for years to come.

DIY Wedding Food and Dessert

Cooking your own food for your wedding day certainly comes with its own logistical challenges.  Some of the ways wedding couples have tied their favorite foods into the wedding day has been such a (tasty!) pleasure.  It hasn’t all been exactly do it yourself, but keeping the responsibilities close to home or helping the caterer truly cater to your clever ideas can really heighten the celebration.

I’ve seen s’mores, handmade pies and cakes, and even donuts!

DIY Wedding Activities

Dinner and dancing may be the best route for many, but we’ve had many couples pass in front of my lens that were really seeking to find an alternative to those traditional activities- something to suit their guests and themselves better.

I’ve attended bonfire receptions, seen handmade beanbag toss games, board game rooms, and even Guitar Hero competitions and costumes!

It’s fun for your guests when you consider their preferences and are willing to think outside the box. As much as I love hitting the dance floor, I know just as many friends who would much rather grab a cup of hot cocoa and play a board game or do a puzzle at their table.

I am eager to see what new and clever DIY brides come my way in the coming wedding seasons! It’s always an adventure and keeps it fresh as we continue to celebrate new families!

Something old, something new
Something borrowed, something green.

I don’t think that’s quite how that saying goes, but if you are looking to minimize your impact on the planet and your waste on your wedding day, here are a handful of ways to be an Eco-friendly bride and have a green wedding.

Rethink some paper products by eliminating or altering their use. For example, ditch the programs or the individual name cards at the reception. I’ve had one couple who did some pretty amazing online invitations, too. For what you do need to print, look into more sustainable paper options or recycled paper for printing.

Use real things, rather than disposable. Sometimes in the name of cost or ease, it’s easy to grab disposable items, but using reusable items like napkins and table settings not only feel nicer, but also eliminate a ton of waste.

Choose things you’ll use again, and then they’ll hold meaning. I love how many things around my home that we use daily came from my wedding. My mother-in-law used buckets for some decorations at my rehearsal dinner and now my kids’ toys are all in colorful buckets around my house. The cups and plates we used for communion are now our special wine glasses and my favorite go-to plates for breakfast and dessert. Maybe your shoes or watch can be new for the wedding and what you use again on special occasions.

Get creative with your guest book. I’ve seen plenty of creative ideas that allow couples to enjoy the names and messages from their family and friends that won’t end up stashed in a box and never seen again. People have signed all kinds of things that the couples plan to display in their home- rocks in a jar to a special favorite book. Photo books featuring engagement photos are also a great alternative; since the book has dual purpose they can enjoy looking at it over and over again, giving those pages a full life.

Use local, native to your area, in-season plants for your flowers and decor.

Eliminate waste by donating extras of anything you can to those who might appreciate it most. Consider food, flowers, decor, supplies, and other items.

Use recycled items for decor. I’ve had several brides that collected specific types of jars for flowers. Also, there was one who painted old doors to create a backdrop for their ceremony.

We aim to keep things as eco-friendly as we can as wedding photographers, too. I’ve previously written about that in how we aim to be responsible in our business, but you can read a portion of it here, too.

We choose to be eco-friendly by:

• Using our equipment fully and until they die or show excess wear, rather than creating excess electronic waste

• Reusing our packaging materials

• Using recycled paper products and minimal new paper or plastics for packaging and marketing

• Often choosing paperless options for proofing, correspondence and billing

• Meeting online with our out of town clients, rather than driving

• Using real plates, napkins, and cups rather than disposable

You might find a few more ideas in my post on Saving Money on your Wedding.

I love following a couple’s story as they begin to form a family during their engagement and at their wedding. The chapters begin to unfold, and when their family grows through births and adoptions I love to continue to tell their stories and document these milestones. Seasons often change faster than we can contain their memories. I am so thankful for photographs to engage those memories and remind us of where we’ve been and spur us on to where we’re going.

Several years ago, while I was deep in the midst of our adoption and unsure with every commitment I made that I might have to break it for my own travel to be with our internationally-born kiddo spur of the moment, I had the privilege of photographing Andy and Allissa’s wedding. They recently had me photograph their growing family with two daughters. It was a joy to celebrate the birth of their youngest and watch them cherish their oldest.

As I looked through the lens of my camera there was an instant when I thought- I’ve been here before. And as so often we see in good story-telling, there are themes and strands woven throughout, perhaps not identical but similar enough to connect us to who we were before and who we still are, but yet somehow- different.

I had photographed Allissa in a mirror as she readied herself for the wedding ceremony. And here she was again, gazing not into her own eyes, but the eyes of her daughter.

Also, just for fun, I was struck by how Allissa’s eyes also reminded me of one of my favorite childhood movies, Anastasia. Just look at those eyes.

When I was a kid, my parents gave us coupons for holidays. One year, my dad put them in our stockings early.

“VOID if opened!” I read.

“Dad? What does void mean?”

“It means you looked in your stocking.”

They were full of obscure gifts like people watching at the airport. Having grown up with it, my kids now get coupons for everything, too, and double time. Nana and PopPop give them trips to feed the ducks and to cook with Nana.

My six year old, Levi, made the request to redeem his “Take Pictures with Mama” coupon that’s been sitting on the side of the fridge for 8 months. Ice cream for breakfast was long gone.

I asked where he wanted to go, and thinking he might say something like a park, a train station, or a hike, he surprised me when he said, “Can we go where that high heeled shoe is that is made out of high heeled shoes?”

“Sure, Buddy.”

When he was born, the doctor told us he was quirky. He really is. He’s consistently baffled doctors with unsolvable issues that sometimes, literally disappear. He’s never shown interest in any particular thing. Not dinosaurs or super heros or hula hoops. “Levi, do you have any favorite things?” we ask periodically.

“Black,” he says. Little to pinpoint but the color black.

Last year, in the middle of some testing for his older brother, we began to realize that perhaps Levi wasn’t seeing things as a typical five or six year old. Having brothers with definable special needs, we assumed he was our TDC- our typically developing child. Didn’t take long to find out we were wrong. I guess we don’t have one.

While others in class were learning their letter sounds, Levi discovered he did like things. Like physics, atoms, nuclei, ecological preservation, and compassion for those without homes. He’d been struggling and told me life was brown like a bowling ball. That sat heavy in my heart like a bowling ball. But as were going through this season he spoke these poetic words, almost as if he got to wake his brain up to these incredible things. “Mama, it’s all white, like water. And I like it.”

Off we went to shoe statue.

In the midst of our outing, he confesses, “Mom, I only chose this coupon to get it over with. But…”

I half expected Levi to just be like any kid. Give them a camera and click, cick, click, click, click, click. The sound is half the fun.

Or to see a shoe statue and take a picture of the shoe statue. See a car and take a picture of a car. See a door and take a picture of a door.

He didn’t do either of those things.

Levi was methodical and purposeful with every single click. Of the photos he took, only a couple are specifically of a particular object, as if it could be removed and labeled for a preschool vocabulary book.

This experience for me was so powerful, seeing the lens through which my six year old sees the world. He naturally did things that were taught to me in college or through professional photography classes- things I have to remind those I mentor or teach.

Never once did I say, “Try looking from a different angle- maybe above or below. Walk all the way around the subject.” I didn’t need to. He was up under that shoe, looking above him at the lights, and hardly ever just standing at eye level pointing the camera at what he saw.

He sees patterns, light and shadow, texture, and perspective. He sees and creates leading lines.

I’d stop him and ask, “What made you just take that picture? What do you see?” His answers were incredible to me.

“I want it to look like I’m at a dump and these shoes were just piled up there.”

Shifting juuuust right, “See those cones?” Yeah, kiddo, and only when you shift like that do they make any visual difference at all.

The compassion that fills him up led him to take photographs of all the dying flowers. Dried up, brown hydrangeas. Wilted impatients in need of a good soaking. He told me they are sad, but also beautiful.

He wanted to show all these different ways to look at things. An older gentleman expressed great concern to him as he was walking towards a slide at a playground. “You are going to spoil that camera!” Yes, most six year olds probably would, but he wanted to share just what it looks like to go down a slide. What a joyful, visual perspective to share!

For years I’ve wanted to show the perspective of a child’s smiling face while he’s being spun around by his hands, but that’s a challenge. And here, he’s showing play through photography without any hesitation. Thankfully, that camera wasn’t spoiled in his attempts.

He finished his sentence, “Mom, I only chose this coupon to get it over with. But… I really like this.”

Aside: I did this with my five year old about a week later, because as you can imagine, the younger wished to also use his coupon. And his was much like him in this phase of life. Fast, color-driven, low composition, focused on mom, and much clicking. :)

Looks like a special friend or your sister is getting married. Maybe you’ve done this 14 times in the last 3.4 years, or maybe it’s your first time. Being a bridesmaid is a special job.

I have a few tips on being the best bridesmaid you can be.

First of all, your job, and the reason you have been asked to be a bridesmaid in the first place is to honor the marriage of your friend or sister. You are standing up in front of perhaps a crowd of witnesses to say, “I support this marriage. I witness it happening, and I am happy to encourage them in their future life together.” To me, that’s a pretty big deal and it carries some weight. There are often showers and parties and celebrations as the wedding approaches and certainly those are delighting. However, in my eyes, the biggest responsibility is being there. Being at the wedding and continuing to support that marriage over time.

Secondly, you are there to help the bride on her wedding day. Help her make sure she’s got everything she needs. Slip her bags into the car for her. Make sure she’s eaten breakfast. Pray with her, take deep breaths with her, and bring her fresh lip stick.

Train time. One of the bridesmaids, usually the maid or matron of honor helps the bride with the train on her dress. If you are in a wedding I am photographing, I’ll help you learn how to lay the train out during the ceremony. In general, a little bit of air to fluff it into place is all it needs and keeps attention where it needs to be. You can also help her carry the train if it is long or heavy, or help her find the loop under the train for the bride to carry it herself. Many trains have a loop that she can slip right over her wrist. Lastly, after the ceremony and photos, often a bridesmaid or the mother of the bride will help to bustle the train. This means that the train will become neatly tucked up into the rest of the dress with buttons, ties, or hook and eyes to allow the bride to dance and move around freely without tripping. Often the seamstress can help you learn how to bustle the dress before the wedding day.

Carrying a bouquet. No matter how many times a bridesmaid carries a bouquet down the aisle, I always do my best to remind them how to hold them. When you are walking in heels down an aisle in front of people, it can be awkward to know how to hold the flowers. They tend to creep up higher as you walk and next thing you know, they are up front of your face like a microphone. Keep your arms low and relaxed. Forearms near your hips.

Pro tip: Have a few paper towels handy when you take the flowers out of the water and blot the ends. You don’t want the cut tips to seep water onto your dress.

Bring a change of shoes. When you are carrying bags or gifts out to the car, or you have been in heels all day for the first time in a year, you’ll be glad you had a pair of flats or flip flops. You’ll be in a better mood to help until the end of the day when you are prepared.

Take your hairband off your wrist.

Celebrate!

In this day and age, we call men “guys” and yet on a wedding day, we expect gentlemen. A lot of the fashion sense and etiquette we have grown to expect has been lost over generations of increasing casualness. Do you know how to pin on a boutineer? Outside of prom, you probably have not worn one. What about a pocket square? Do you know how to tie a tie? Use studs and cufflinks?

Increase the pressure, a photographer like me is going to photograph you trying to figure it out.

Do your homework and practice a bit. The Art of Manliness has tons of great tutorials to help you out. If you get stuck that day, I’ll help you out.

Beyond all the formalwear, your purpose is both to witness and support the bride and groom in their new marriage. You watch and affirm the life-long commitment they are making to one another, and say, “Yes! I think this is a good idea!” Keep your knees unlocked so you can attentively bless and encourage your friends or family as they are getting married. Though it makes a good story, I’d suggest avoiding fainting.

During portraits or other transitions, help the couple by carrying things or offering to help with anything they need. Bring some water, grab a snack, chapstick, or drive the car around.

Many Best Men know their duties include a toast. I’ve seen all sorts. Including one with a sword. Most with laughing, some with crying, and the occasional poorly prepared toast. Do your best to bless the couple and stick to your personality to aid the celebration.

Are you an usher? Ushers usually get off easy or no one knows how to tell you your job. But people want to see, and your job is to escort people to their seats and help them find the best place to sit for their size of party. Perhaps it’s a family with a young child. Place them near an aisle (not the center aisle, if you can), so they can escape if needed. Family? Up close. Large group, help them find the open areas so they can sit together.

Etiquette would encourage you to escort the eldest female by the arm, and her partner or family would follow.

What about during all those pictures? The best groomsmen are respectful of the couple and the photographer and full of fun. Sometimes all the guys have known each other for years, and it’s joyful reunion. Sometimes the groomsmen come from all walks of the groom’s life, so they don’t have long-term camaraderie, and that’s ok, but do your best to break out of your shell and have fun. Listen to the photographer and do your best to listen to their lame jokes to keep you smiling.

The photographs will be cleaner and taken faster if you leave your phone and keys in the car or limo. Empty those pockets, please! Same goes for sunglasses unless that’s part of the game-plan.

If you are married, dating, or otherwise connected with a bridesmaid, stick close and you’re likely to be positioned in the photograph with the person you like best. When a photographer is moving fast, group portraits are often done by who is closest or the height that balances the photo the best.

How many times have you heard it said that babies don’t come with a manual?

Sometimes when I swaddle a baby, the first-time parents make a comment like, “Look at how nice that swaddle looks! It’s like someone taught you.” Well, it might not have been a manual, but I was taught when I had my firstborn. I have taken many classes on newborn photography. I’ve got three kiddos of my own, and we host babies in our home with Safe Families for Children. I am not a baby wrapping wizard like some who photograph newborns full time, but I have swaddled many babies.

I’ve had many new moms and dads ask me how to do the basic swaddle that I do to start most of my newborn sessions. Here is your tutorial on my go-to swaddle!

Even older babies love being swaddled (and even my big kids love an occasional tight wrap in a blanket!), as it provides comfort and nice gentle pressure. My lovely model for this was 8 months old and so excited for the closeness with Mama as we wrapped her up.

Some of the photos do have an extra set of hands as I was teaching while photographing, but it can easily be done alone.

Starting tips: Always make sure baby is safe while preparing your wrap. This might be in someone’s arms or safely in a bassinet or on the floor.

Take a large swaddling blanket and lay it flat. Fold in one corner generously. A wide open space on the floor is the safest place, so baby cannot roll or fall off a raised surface. If your baby is not yet rolling and you have a large enough space, you can do this on a bed or a changing pad, making sure to always keep baby secure.

Lay baby on the blanket with the head just above the folded corner.

Take one arm and lay it next to the baby’s side, it can bend over their heart. For newborns, it is often easier to lay it next to their side, and the older the baby, the more likely they are to cross it over their belly. You can see in this picture, her arm is coming across her torso. This is fine.

Take the blanket and pull it over the top of the arm that is tucked in, and tuck it under the baby, nice and snug. Just use your fingers to shove it a few inches under that side of their back. You can gently roll baby to the side to get a nice snug tuck on that part of the blanket. When done, you should have a nice smooth line. If the little one is fussing a lot and pulling, just try again.

Next, if tucking in the toes, pull the bottom corner down and away to pull it snug.

Then, pull it up to the baby’s shoulder and tuck the corner over their shoulder. For babies of different ages, their desire/ability varies with size and mobility. Really tiny babies love to have their legs folded and then tucked like this and they are a tiny little bundle. Older babies like this less and less. My model preferred her legs out.

Then, the last part is where all that snug pulling is made worth it and is required. Lay the other arm down by their side, and firmly but gently wrap that side of the blanket across the front of the baby towards the first arm you tucked in.

Wrap any excess blanket around the back of the baby and you are ready to pick them up.

Note: Be sure to use wisdom on not wrapping too tightly, and making sure the temperature of the baby is considered, by not overwrapping/dressing baby.

Why swaddle? When I was a new mom, I was told all about how we need to swaddle our babies, and how it mimicks the comfort of being in the womb. It’s really incredible to watch a baby who is in total freak-out mode because they are overwhelmed become instantly calmed when they are wrapped gently but firmly by a trusted caregiver.

In decade since our oldest joined us earlier than planned for a stay in the NICU, the course our family’s journey has taken has filled us with a lot of training and experience with neural development, sensory processing disorder, parenting after trauma, and the like. Many adults and teens are learning they love a good weighted blanket or loving, snug hug, and it does the same thing a swaddle does for a little one.

Swaddling helps a newborn feel safe, physically and emotionally comforted, and provides a good deep pressure, which helps develop their proprioceptive senses. They also are less likely to wake from the startle reflex, so baby gets better rest. You can see, too, that his baby is able to get lots of good eye contact with Mama and feels really loved.

Peek-a-boo!

No season is perfect, but every season has reasons to celebrate with joy.

Honor motherhood in the season where your feet fall now.

Your house might not be perfect. Your clothes might not be perfect. You might be between haircuts — or frankly even showers, but this is the season you are in. 

This is for new mothers, seasoned mothers, and grandmothers.

Mention a joy your mother, wife, or children bring to you for $100 off a This Season session
or
add a FREE medium print to a Mini Session

Sessions must be scheduled before 5/12

Not sure you want to be in the photos? I’d urge you to do it anyway. Photographs create a sense of belonging. 

It’s time for another round of Photo Basics Workshops! We’ve got two classes available on February 23, 2019 — Cell Phone Photography and Manual Photography with your DSLR or Mirrorless camera. 

These small photography classes have a relaxed atmosphere for light-hearted but effective learning of photography basics. We cover a lot of ground, but aim to keep it approachable. 

Wondering if these classes are for you?

If you want your photos of your kids, your lunch, your work projects, your date night, or your day-to-day to improve, this is for you. If you take pictures for your blog, this is for you. If you want to take pictures of that pretty tree or breathtaking landscape on your family adventure, this is for you. If your boss wants you take pictures for that next project, this is for you. If you take too many pictures of your kids standing in front of that tree at that special place you went to and none of them shine, this is for you. If you take vacations, this is for you.

What equipment do I need?

For the cell phone class, all you need is a cell phone. You could probably even take this class with a point and shoot camera and get alone just fine.  It can be old and imperfect. (Mine is.) It can be new and fancy. Principles are the same.

For the DSLR/Mirrorless class, you can have any camera that has manual settings.  It will be easiest to follow along with a camera that has visible settings on a dial on the top or back of the camera (rather than all inside in the camera’s menus), but you can still get a lot out of the class without that style. 

What will we learn?

In the cell phone class, we talk about how to use your cell phone as a tool to photograph your daily life.  A cell phone has limits, though, so we address how to use light, timing, and composition to increase, rather than decrease, the quality of your pictures. We do some light hands-on work and demos to help you make sense of it all. 

Sample from one of my recent students, Timothy, taken during practice at the cell phone photography workshop. 

In the DSLR/Mirrorless class, we walk through the camera’s basic functions, and consider how light, composition, and timing affect the photos we take.  Though similar topics, they are covered differently in this class, with more depth and specifics for manual adjustments. This photo class also has time for hands-on work and demos. 

Both classes are lightly customized to the people in the class and the subjects you photograph, so come with questions and problems to solve and brainstorm together. 

Other practical details: 

This is in the Saint Louis area. It will likely be in our home studio, but class size will determine final location.

For those attending both classes, there is a break for lunch, but it is not provided. You can bring a lunch or zip out to get something. 

To sign up: email nikki@purplelemonphotography.com

If you are interested in personal classes or mentorship, please send me an email and we can create a custom class just for you.

I often tell people that I’ll photograph year round, but rarely get takers in the winter. It’s been fun over the last few years that families I’ve photographed many times have realized that I’ve photographed them in many nature-driven-seasons, so they reach out to make a complete set. Spring, summer, autumn, and winter.

Maybe it’s the sunscreen I’m smelling on my skin and the heat from the start of summer, but I’m thankful for all the chances to photograph year round. I have been able to photograph under spring blossoms, summer’s carnivals, in the crunch of fall leaves, and folks wrapped in blankets and sipping warm drinks and embracing for warmth.

I remember the hot sun glaring down on us during this family’s engagement session and the cold air on their New Year’s Eve wedding. And countless times with the additions of their sons in between. They reached out midwinter for snow photos to help round out their collection, and we hung in there, watching the weather and touching base every time there was a reasonable chance for snow.

It was so worth the wait and spur of the moment scheduling.

Recently I shared something on social media about how powerful it is for children to see themselves in printed photographs on the wall or in a frame on the shelf or over the mantle. The messages we send to our children is that they are loved and cherished and precious and they belong in a family. 

I got a text from a dear friend and Purple Lemon family about how she’d read that and then opened photographs to put on their wall.  Her sons were giddy with excitement to see themselves and know that they are worthy to be part of the home- literally adorning their walls. 

As a parent of both adopted and biological children, I see this so clearly.  The value of having our children in a photograph to demonstrate their belonging is important.  It takes the abstract and makes it a visible, concrete thing. 

But I think all too often, we forget the value of the whole family being in those photographs. It can be tempting to let the kids become the showcase. They are adorable and are hitting milestones we do not want to forget. Sitting up alone, walking, starting school, missing teeth, graduating. Those celebrations hold tons of merit and value.

And that makes me think of two things. 

First, Mamas and Papas- you have to get in the pictures.There are many excuses to sit it out, but I’d say, get in there. 

I recently had two Mamas share about how important it was to be in the photographs with their kids. 

“I am so happy you got pics of me with each child. I have a history of cancer and I just got a discouraging imaging result.  I wanted each child to have a pic with me individually in case something ever happens to me. I tell you this because I want you to know that what you do is really important.”

This Mama was sharing about a photo online after receiving positive comments.  I knew these parents weren’t anticipating more photos after we’d recently shot together, but this family trusted me, and I loved the outcome of a photo altogether.

“...the funniest part is that both [of us] were totally unprepared for pics that day. She had to come back because O was fussy the first time we did pics. We thought she was just going to get some baby shots. I had wet hair and zero makeup, no glasses. Lester has on an old T-shirt. Somehow it worked!”

Secondly, people remember what they were doing when they see certain photos. Sometimes, people need to stand or sit in an awkward way to get the right angle and I hope they don’t remember too much about those.  But often people will say to their new spouse at a wedding preview, “Oh, that’s when you made me laugh!” or “Do remember that? That’s when Dad walked out in his shorts and tuxedo jacket!” 

The memories we create when we take portraits of a family is more than just the photo itself. I love encouraging parents to engage with their children when I photograph their family. I’d much rather a child remember their dad being goofy and dancing behind me or their mom smiling at them and giving eye contact than the photographer lady trying to make them laugh and everyone calling their name a billion times. 

Mamas, take this nugget that my youngest tells me and hold on to it for yourselves.  “You are the cutest Mama in the whole universe! You are beautiful.” (He also tells me I’d be more beautiful if I wore a dress with flowers on it, but I’ll leave your botanicals to your own discretion.)

You ready to be in the photos? To show you belong, too? Email Nikki

There’s something so special about a newborn baby. Their fragility. Their squishy cheeks. Their appearance into the world after being almost abstract to their family for many months. They are certainly reason to celebrate.

When photographing a newborn, there are a couple of location options that I tend to opt for, but most frequently, I photograph at the newborn’s home. Parents have often created a nursery for their littlest ones out of the love that is in abundance while they can’t yet hold their tiny hands and feet.  Mother’s bodies are healing and one less outing, the better.  Families change and seasons change, and documenting the home your baby comes home to is a special kind of documentation to me.

One of my children, adopted and having moved internationally at age 2, can never know what the home he was born into looks like.  We can’t really even imagine it. What a gift it would be to him to have a sense of place and home of birth through a photograph.

Our oldest, though he can’t remember it, knows the home where he was born and says, “Hi old house!” every time we pass it. The photos we have of that home where he was born help him establish the days he doesn’t recall. And see how goofy we looked standing on the front porch on the way to his first doctor’s appointment. The Christmas tree where we stood after he came home from the hospital. And the red slip covered couch where I sat to watch too many hours of The Today Show after he was born.

I have a handful of tips on how to prepare for your newborn photography session at home. These are things I tell to almost every family.

Schedule ASAP. Newborn photography is best done before baby is 14 days old.  Less than a week is ideal for photographing, but not always ideal for parents just getting home from the hospital and recovering.

Warmth. We’ll probably be changing baby or wrapping baby or undressing baby, so keeping your house warm will help baby stay settled and sleepy. Crank up the heat and be prepared to get toasty.

Clothes. Mama’s bodies do not bounce back in a day, so not everything in your closet is going to fit.  Honestly, I know that makes it hard to plan ahead. That in-between stage, when your body is still looking like you are about 4 or 5 months pregnant can be hard to dress, and so I just say- girl, do your best. Your presence in the photo is far more important than any shirt or pair of jeans you can squeeze into.  Many tops these days are rather flowing and have a lot of drape, so that can be an easy option. I advise couples to coordinate but not match, and to send a picture if they have questions about wardrobe.  Simple is best.

Tidying.  There is no need to wear your body out more than it already will be cleaning and preparing. I do suggest clearing out any excess clutter sitting out in the nursery (like bags of diapers, those shower gifts that never found a home or need returning, or pile of laundry), making the bed in your own room, and potentially tidying up in the living room.  But don’t overhaul the house.  I’ll move whatever I need to and it’s no big deal.

Props and special tidbits.  If I see a fun basket or bowl or box in your home, I might use it as a prop. If you have any special heirlooms, handmade gifts, blankets, hats, or clothing you’d like included, have it out and ready in case we have a great way to incorporate it.

Expectations:
You can expect that if my kids are sick or I am sick, I’ll postpone for the safety of your child. I’ll also use sanitizer or wash my hands before holding your baby.

I’ll never pose your baby in a dangerous way, nor move away from baby without a spotter.

If you are having a newborn mini session, your photos will likely all be relationship photos, and little to none of those photos will have baby alone. Mama and Dad will be there to cuddle baby for our short time together. If baby is really sleepy, we’ll do our best to get baby alone.

If you are having a This Season session, you can expect a longer, relaxed pace together.  We’ll spend a full morning, afternoon, or evening together. I’ll photograph a mixture of posed portraits, candid moments, soothing, feeding (as desired), and details of baby and their space. If baby is fussy, it’s OK. If baby is sleeping the whole time, that’s OK. You can expect to just enjoy looking at your baby and spending time as a family.

As couples are beginning to plan their weddings, choosing vendors can be tough.  Especially when everyone can snap photos on their phone, it can be especially hard to choose a quality photographer.

Some couples are really DIY - making their own bouquets and enlisting the help of family to make cupcakes, gathering bridesmaids in their living room to assemble centerpieces and favors for guests.  Others are looking for a more hands-off approach and wanting a professional to take it and run with it and create an elegant affair.

Either end of that spectrum is a place for a professional photographer. You can DIY you to heart’s content, but taking your own photos isn’t going to work out so well. Investing in a Certified Professional Photographer will help you know that your photographer has experience and technical excellence, and is maintaining that over time.

Although I have been photographing for many years, and photographing weddings since 2005, I completed the hard work to become a Certified Professional Photographer in 2012. This process requires passing a challenging exam on technical photography, passing a portfolio review including client work, and also a review of professional standards, websites, and a commitment to maintaining professional standards over time.  To maintain this certification, I attend conferences, workshops, and classes each year to keep learning and keep my standards high. I also serve as a CPP Liaison who assists incoming candidates in completing their certification process.

When considering your photographer, and other vendors, consider their qualifications in helping you celebrate your special day. You can use Professional Photographers of America’s database to help find a professional or Certified Professional Photographer.

At the tail end of winter, as the first bits of spring began to arrive, Rachel and Justin gathered their families from St. Louis and Atlanta in iconic Forest Park for their wedding at the Norman K Probstein Golf Course. Mimicking the colors of the changing seasons, they enjoyed an elegant event with soft pinks, greens and gold.

Rachel’s billowy fabrics in her dress brought a softness, complimented by the punchy, exciting gold of their decor.

Rachel and Justin had such a laid back spirit that was full of joy at their new marriage and reception.

It was a wonderful celebration as their guests danced their hearts out and stayed until their sparkler departure.

I’ve seen many dances that celebrate the longest marriages in the room, but this was my absolute favorite.  The whole room was cheering as these special grandparents continued dancing as the DJ called out more and more years of their marriage.

I’d prayed for Rachel shortly before their wedding and told her I was praying for their marriage into their old age, and perhaps it will be quite the celebration when their children and grandchildren cheer for them as well.

Vendors:

Hair Styling | Constance at Urbaneboozer

Bakery | La Patisserie Chouquette

DJ services | DJ A. Eye

Venue for both ceremony and reception | Norman K Probstein Golf Course

Let’s face it, weddings are expensive. And my job as a wedding photographer doesn’t help. However, the value of quality photos of your wedding day is high.

Let’s imagine for a second that you want quality, professional photographs from your wedding day but the costs are adding up and the budget is bursting at the seams. It’s tempting to find cheaper or free alternatives. Let me help you look at simple ways to save money on your wedding that doesn’t leave you skimping on pictures.

Let’s start with big picture questions. Consider the necessity and value of particular elements you wish to include in your ceremony, reception, or day as a whole. Ask yourself, “Why?” Is it just tradition or your own expectations? Can they be shifted and still respect the vision you have for your day?

More specifically, think about details and if you really care about including them at all or if you can do it yourself and not add to much stress.

When considering flowers and food, opt for local, in season options. For example, serving watermelon in February isn’t going to be a money saver (nor will it taste as good!). And getting your florist to import an exotic flower won’t be as cost-conscious as choosing spring blossoms native to your area that are already in bloom in May.

Also, when considering flowers, if you are trying to stick to your budget, consider using less. I have had several winter weddings avoid flowers altogether, using the greenery already decorating the church or venue. In my own wedding, we didn’t do boutineers for the gentlemen.

Skip programs, or keep them simple. For longer ceremonies, it can be helpful for guests to have one, but I’ve attended many weddings without them and I don’t think anyone noticed. It also helps reduce waste.

Something old, something new. Something borrowed, something blue. The tradition to have each of these things isn’t a bad idea when it comes to minimizing your costs. Consider second-hand, borrowed, or otherwise re-used items. Decorations can be thrifted, bought used from Craigslist or similar places, or borrowed from a friend. I’ve had a bride who borrowed her dress. Some of my favorite flowers at a wedding were in a collection of jars the bride and friends saved and washed from things like salad dressings, spaghetti sauce, and preserves.

Use one venue, rather than separate venues for reception and wedding ceremony. I’ve photographed several that are in the same room. It’s convenient for your guests and you as you coordinate only one location.

Feeding people can grow expensive quickly. Consider what options make the most sense for you. Maybe a dinner reception isn’t the best idea, and a cake reception better fits the bill. One alternative that I liked a lot was a cake reception for all the guests, but a more private affair was held later in the evening with dinner for family and the wedding party.

Do your research to find unique, affordable options that suit your tastes and match your values. Ask questions and seek alternatives. My wedding reception was in a non-traditional location and I was concerned I’d get turned down when I asked and that it would cost a fortune. I asked, and not only were they happy to oblige, but it was only $75 for a cleaning fee. What a treat to dance with my new husband where I’d dreamed!

Involve family and friends. If you have someone with special skills who wouldn’t mind being an emcee or coordinating for you, go for it. If you have aunts a plenty who want to make appetizers or arrange your flowers, use their gifts and give a hearty thanks!

If you love cars, splurge on an amazing unique kind of transportation for your day, but if not, your own car will be just fine. Though I might suggest cleaning it for a touch of extra sparkle.

All that being said, save for what you value and prioritize that. I’d love for you to clear the way for your photography. However, other vendors would likely hope you would do the same creating memories through the dancing, or atmosphere at the reception, or a stunning cake that looks like a work of art.

We all snap photos of our kids and, these days, even of ourselves.  We snap photos of almost everywhere we go, each date we’re on, and document even what we ate for lunch. Even though I was late to the smartphone world, I’m still guilty as charged.

And as I reviewed my cell phone pics to illustrate this post, realistically I have photos of that chair I cleaned really well. The cool pattern the syrup made in our yogurt when I was shaking the last drops out of the jar. A selfie to ask a friend if I can actually pull off this look (I wasn’t exactly trendy- I was wearing a bonnet). And endless LEGO and magnet creations my kids couldn’t bear to take apart without a picture.

My hubby, though technically a partner in Purple Lemon Photography, who even attends photography conferences like a champ, isn’t a photographer. He collectively owns our cameras and uses the camera on his cell phone like many other people. Yet, he isn’t a photographer. If I say to him, “Pssst! Look at the boys, take a picture of that!” he’ll dutifully whip out the cell phone, take 14 frames in a row that all pretty much look the same and aren’t at all what I imagined. Yes, the boys were still doing the cute thing that I wanted to see again, but the timing and composition were not quite up to par with my imagination.

For example, he thought it would be clever for our sons to become a mermaid, a unicorn, and a fairy for my birthday. A picture would certainly help us remember this whimsical moment of fantasy and good cheer. But… rather we have a cluster of blurry, confusing pictures of my sons in half of their PJs.

This is so easy to have happen! There is a time and place for new photographers to learn and grow, and I certainly needed and appreciated those friends and clients who provided that for me.  However, there is now, more than ever a need for couples and families to find professional photographers who can help them have photos that are better than imagined, not less than.

A professional will weed out the 14 weird faces when you are half blinking or chewing your last bite of dinner roll.  A professional will have a compelling composition and lighting that flatters, not distracts. A professional will deliver your product in a timely manner and treat you with respect. They will not require you to have all the ideas because that’s their job. You get to keep being a teacher, a mom, a social worker, graphic designer, or- like my hubby- a software developer. I’ll be the professional photographer so you don’t have to be.

Although I have been photographing for many years, and photographing portraits since 2004, I completed the hard work to become a Certified Professional Photographer in 2012. This process requires passing a challenging exam on technical photography, passing a portfolio review including client work, and also a review of professional standards, websites, and a commitment to maintaining professional standards over time.  To maintain this certification, I attend conferences, workshops, and classes each year to keep learning and keep my standards high. I also serve as a CPP Liaison who assists incoming candidates in completing their certification process.

When considering your photographer, consider their qualifications in helping you celebrate your family, children, or wedding day. You can use Professional Photographers of America’s database to help find a professional or Certified Professional Photographer.

I've been photographing my dear friend Janele for 15 years, since we met as freshmen in college. Do you know that my heart loves it so much that I even dream of photographing her? This year she's celebrating a milestone of 10 years of marriage, but last year she joined me on a bridal session, allowing me to photograph her in her dress again.

Would you like to get gussied up and join me for a bridal or trash the dress session? These are casual, fun, sessions designed to create artful celebrations of your marriage. Send me an email to schedule one today: [email protected]

Choosing the name for my first child was as easy as sipping a cool glass of lemonade. Choosing a name for this business was about as hard as squeezing the lemons to make the lemonade I so desperately needed once I finally chose it. As I look back on the process it took to find that perfect purple lemon, I see that although I tried to have a method to my madness, the madness came first with the method rolling down the hill after it. I was on the phone with my entire family trying some ideas out on them, when in pops my husband from the other room, “Purple Lemon Photography!” Then he went back to watching a movie starring Jack Lemmon with some friends. When he was still talking about it later, he quickly convinced me it was “the one.” The longer we sat with this name mulling in our brains the more and more we became convinced this is perfection in a purple lemon.

I am eager to share just a hand full of the reasons we love Purple Lemon Photography!

Lydia was a successful business woman in the Bible (Acts 16). She sold purple cloth and used the success of her business to support the functioning of the church and its international mission. I want to be like her.

Lemons are a symbol of fidelity in love.

Jack Lemmon is a funny guy.

No one flat out told me they did not like it. Every other option received handfuls of rejects. Maybe they were just …lemons.

In elementary school a friend and I gave each other secret nicknames that used the letters in our names. Mine was Lemon! (Tip: take the initials of my maiden name, put them backwards, insert vowels, and voila!)

I love lemons. Lemonheads, lemon drops, lemonade pie, lemon bars, lemon sorbet, lemons on the side of my glass (Those are supposed to be appetizers right?)

The day it came into being, I was wearing purple pants, purple undies, and was drinking from my favorite squiggly purple cup.

One of my favorite photo assignments from college was my final project that I did on fruit. In my series is a picture of a lemon on a purple napkin.

When I lived in The Netherlands, I brought out the hibernating sketchpad and rekindled my love for drawing in the relaxed pace of life I experienced there. Out of that time of unpressured creativity, I produced a little sketch of a lemon on a purple background.

I got a lemon out of the gumball machine at dinner right in that time frame- and I even took a picture!

One of my favorite parts of photography is the visual appeal of contrast. Yellow and purple are contrasting colors. Who knows, maybe purple and yellow will be the new black and white!

Conceptually, a purple lemon represents so much of what I want my business to be- fresh, modern, unique, and something seasonal.

I focus often in my photography and writing on the idea of the passage of seasons and the details that fill them up. The daily and mundane that become the treasures in our memories. The tiny toes curled under a high chair. The stack of books from the library. The trinkets chosen to decorate a shelf at any given time. Or the jewelry signifying a special connection with a loved one.

This season has been especially trying for me, as I have been enduring a long-term illness and as a result have missed out on my morning walks with my family. As a way to help my kids with sensory processing disorder start their days literally on the right foot, we started taking short walks before school and work a few years ago, and it was a special time for all of us.

My illness has meant that I have to sit out during those walks. In fact, as I write, they are walking.

Being outside is one of my favorite things. MIssing out on those walks is so hard for me. My sons are so thoughtful, that without my asking, they bring me their treasures, showing me the passage of natural seasons during this emotionally and physically draining season for me. I line my sill with blossoms from a blooming tree, the biggest leaves from the tree a few blocks away, or the smoothest rocks. I get mini forests of sprouted maple trees, weed-flowers, and flowers plucked from sidewalks after storms. And an occasional roly-poly.

They bring the walk to me. So whenever I cross the kitchen, I get to go on a walk through the neighborhood, too. The season is displayed on my sill, right next to my full sink, my splattered window. When I look out to check on the kids playing in the backyard, their discoveries and gifts are there waiting for me.

Each season has special details, and that’s exactly what my This Season sessions are designed to highlight. What are the details surrounding you?

One of my favorite ways to photograph a family is in a This Season session.  This style of photographing results in tons of details, variation, and a series of photos that in traditional portraiture are eliminated to show the “just right” moments.

This Spring I drove a couple of hours to visit a family I have been photographing for a few years to photograph them at their new home. Since I had seen them, they had a new baby, a new home, and big brother had grown up so much.  They are in the thick of rock piles and squishy baby legs, singing the ABCs and soft-fluffy animals, and decorating a new house (with tons of PLP photos!). Their new home is near a special grandma who loves to snuggle her grandbabies, and that is certainly part of this season to share.

One of the special parts of a This Season session to me is that we can include so many of the moment we might otherwise neglect, like those quiet moments when a toddler is feeling shy and needs some comfort from loving parents.

These are tender, special moments, which for a parent are precious memories, and for children help them view their preciousness in strong imagery. These send powerful messages to our children about their worth.

Having photographs of details and moments are such a gift as we have them to look back on and remind us of little things so quickly forgotten.

‘Tis the season to be merry and bright!

One of the things we love to encourage is to Celebrate Family and also to savor each season of life that you may be in.  Some are rather bitter and some are sweet, and as we’re learning quite deeply, many seasons hold both simultaneously.

One of the types of sessions that we offer is a This Season session, when I spend all morning, afternoon, or evening with you photographing the details and candid moments, along with a handful of portraits.  

It’s in the common and everyday things that we find the extraordinary moments that fill us with appreciation and deepen our love for our families.

With Christmastime upon us, I photographed those special moments of decorating for Christmas with my family, which though ordinary with bright blue tubs from the basement are also sacred. Our family is reminded of Christ’s birth and we grow in unity through shared experiences as family joined together from a fragmented past.

Though the muted, vintage decorations may contrast with our cheery, bright decor, it reflects us. We hope through the creativity, order, and presentation of our home that we are also reflecting the Savior.

May the everyday moments of your own season, whether sweet as candy or bitter as chalk, find you thankful. May you take time to simply Celebrate Family as you celebrate with your family this holiday season.

Seasons Greetings from Purple Lemon Photography to you!

We want to show honor to God by valuing people, our resources, and the natural resources in the earth.  Here is how we are doing that practically at PLP.

Using our equipment fully and until they die or show excess wear, rather than adding new gadgets and cameras and creating excess electronic waste and then passing the cost on to you

Reusing our packaging materials when we need to ship our orders

Recycled paper products and minimal new paper or plastics in our packaging choices

Recycled paper in many of our marketing materials

Paperless proofing

Paperless correspondence and billing

Keeping our staff level low so we can pay well

Consideration of our ethics in our purchases

Posting images of our clients and children online only with permission, and keeping children’s names private

Meeting online with our out of town clients, rather than driving

Using real plates, napkins, and cups rather than disposable

Providing handmade, local treats and snacks when possible 

Summertime is a common time for weddings with easier breaks from work or school and warm weather.  Though a favorite wedding time, the hot weather can cause its own challenges. I’ve seen my fair share of sweaty grooms and melting brides. In fact, I was one myself.

I was one of those brides who had an outdoor reception in August. Some people like to remind me of that tragic fact, but I remember it as all sunshine, daisies, and happiness.

Here are my best tips to a pleasant and prepared warm weather wedding.

Hydration.  Be sure that all members of the wedding party have enough water to drink.  It might be tempting to fill your cooler with beer, soda, or lemonade, but water is best. I’ve seen my fair share of events when the water ran out.

Air. Hand-held paper or electric fans are so valuable.  My favorite tip from when I worked for another photographer in college was to lay a fan on the ground under the bride’s skirt when she is standing still for a while (such as during family portraits).  If she has a lot of layers to her dress, it can be really hot.

Sweat is real, and so is the midwestern humidity. Menswear on a wedding day has a lot of layers and is often black.  The materials of women’s dresses are also delicate and show wetness easily.  Packing a stack of washcloths and hankies can be helpful to blot sweat and stay fresh. You can even freeze a few in a baggie and keep it in the cooler to help cool down fast.

Change of clothes.  I like to encourage summer brides and grooms to consider packing an extra set of undergarments for a midday change.  An extra undershirt, bra, or panties can go a long way to feeling like you can handle your reception with grace.  You’ll be hugging a lot of people on your wedding day and doing so in a sweat-soaked undershirt holds a lot less appeal than feeling fresh for the party.

Staying fresh- in your bag for the day along with lipstick and Advil, throw in your deodorant! Reapplying before the receiving line or the reception is probably a good idea.

As I plan the wedding day schedule with my couples, I make sure that weddings during hot weather seasons don’t have long stretches outside.  Consider multiple, short stops so there are breaks in the car or party bus to cool off, or stick to your venue and step inside to cool off as needed. Coordinate with your photographer to make sure your schedule is appropriate for the weather.

Check out what I keep in my wedding day emergency kit for my wedding couples. 

As I say to every bridal couple I photograph, “Weddings are uncontrollable events.”

Spills happen. Traffic jams occur. Doors are locked. Dresses snag.

Wedding days have a lot of moving cogs, but being prepared can help little inconveniences stay little and not grow into big stressors.  Having a bridal emergency kit available is one way that I can help couples stay focused on the joys and celebrations that fill their wedding day.

I’ll give you a peek into what I like to try to keep with me on wedding days. You can use this list to help you be prepared for your own special day:

Wedding Day Emergency Kit

• bobby pins
• cotton swabs
• razor
• lotion
• manicure set
• dress tape
• safety pins
• ibuprofen
• blotting paper
• straws
• tissues
• small snacks
• baby powder
• shout wipes
• mints
• band aids
• deodorant
• baby wipes
• hair spray
• tooth brush
• bottled water
• handheld fans
• needle and thread

Purple Lemon Photography couples, I’ve got you covered.

See also warm weather wedding tips and cold weather wedding tips.

About a year ago when we were updating our website and giving our logo a refresher, part of that process was asking a lot of questions about what Purple Lemon Photography really is. Some parts of how I used to operate were no longer things I was pursuing, and other things have been added to the mix over time.

So here’s the scoop- the fresh view of what makes up Purple Lemon Photography. Each part is like a little slice of my creative spirit.

Wedding + Engagement Photography | Family Portraiture
Fine Art Decor | Teaching + Mentoring | Volunteering + Serving

I’ll be exploring these in more detail in the next few posts, so you can learn more about why we do what we do.

This segment is part three in a series exploring what is Purple Lemon Photography.

Fine Art Decor + Etsy

Since I was young, I have always photographed the world around me. After having a couple of gallery shows in a local coffee shop, we added the ability for people to purchase these prints and others through Etsy or in person (during classes or events).

I’m also dabbling in using these photographs in stock photography.

Teaching + Mentoring

Small, light-hearted classes and individual mentorships are the primary ways that I love to teach photography skills. I offer classes periodically. Also, when I have some interest, I’ll pull together a class to suit those students. Keep an eye out or request a class!

Mentorships are also available upon request, and I’ve also worked with the mentorship program at Webster University.

Volunteering + Serving

One of the main reasons PLP exists is to serve, bless, and celebrate those around us. We’ve done that in many ways over the years. Sometimes, it is through our profits that we support people doing good work, solid ministry, and encouraging things in our world. Sometimes, we are able to use our profits for disaster relief efforts or other challenging situations.

When we were adopting internationally, we used various photo-based events to help us earn the money we needed to unite our family under one roof.

I have also volunteered my skills and time for many local organizations that help with homelessness, newborn advocacy, refugees, families with children in the NICU, Safe Families for Children, and others.

Currently, the most consistent way I am volunteering is with Found Families.  It’s an organization that helps adoptive families like our own receive photographs of their new family through either portraits or documentation of airport homecoming events or courtroom dates. It’s often been a long, expensive road, and this is a gift to those families. It’s really critical for adopted kids to see themselves in pictures of their families to help them gain a sense of permanency and belonging.

We don’t often have sales, but if we do, they are often fundraising based, letting people know that they are participating in serving others.

Miss parts one and two? Check them out:

What is Purple Lemon Photography?
Wedding + Engagement Photography | Family Portraiture

This segment is part two in a series exploring what is Purple Lemon Photography.

Wedding + Engagement Photography

When Purple Lemon Photography was begun, it was out of a love for wedding photography that had developed as I worked as an associate for a wedding photography company in college. I discovered that I love wedding photography. It appeals to my love for creating and organizing events, celebrations, and relationships. The varied, long, fast-paced days are thrilling for me, and gives me much creative inspiration. I love working with the families and blessing the couple in every way I can.

Photographing engagements gives me time to build relationships with the couples I’ll be spending the day with on their wedding day, and find ways to visually represent their story.

Portraits

Alongside weddings and engagements, I also photograph many babies, children, and families. I love using the skills I’ve developed as a parent of children with sensory integration issues to engage children in fun and meaningful ways with their own families during their photography session.

Miss the other parts? Check them out:

What is Purple Lemon Photography?
Fine Art Decor | Teaching + Mentoring | Volunteering + Serving

Over a glass of lemonade, I tell each couple who sits with me in my sunny office the two reasons why I encourage couples to have an engagement session. Having portraits taken during this special season prior to marriage is both practical and a gift.

First of all, it gives the couple an opportunity to get to know me with a camera and what that experience is like. It can be daunting to have someone following you all day with a camera on your wedding day. This gives us a chance to grow more comfortable together so you can better enjoy your wedding day. And on the flip side, I get to know you better and how you photograph. I learn things like if you blink a lot, or if you giggle with the attention. I can learn that you need a lot of direction or you naturally fall into poses. These things help your wedding day go more smoothly since we’ve had a low-stress chance to practice together.

Secondly, I get to photograph you in a special part of your life, with special details that you’ll want to look back upon with fondness. I help you plan a date or location that holds meaning to you and helps tell your story. Some couples have recreated first dates or favorites. Some check things off their bucket list. And others aim for something more simple.

I’ve accompanied people on boat rides, watched people make brownies and throw popcorn, and taken others for hikes. I love the variety of the couples I photograph!

I love the chance to make sure that during this busy time of planning a big event and planning a future, often with finding a new apartment or house and sometimes a big move, you get at least one awesome date. You can look into each other’s eyes, laugh, and hold hands. You get to connect over something that is uniquely you, and — BONUS! — then you get record of it for keeps.

Recently, just a week before their wedding, when things could have felt busy and overwhelming, Justin and Rachel said “Pause!” and enjoyed breakfast together. Rachel had just moved back to town and the wedding was just about to happen, but I joined them at The London Tea Room where they enjoyed tea and breakfast. They said that cream was so good it was worth the splurge!

Effective Communication for Comfortable Clients

brought to you by Professional Photographers of America (PPA)
Taught by Nikki Dukes, CPP
May 16, 2022
St. Louis MO
9:30am-5:30pm
Registration: https://www.ppa.com/events/photography-workshops/find-a-workshop

I'm teaching a day-long photography workshop next month through Professional Photographers of America. This course is designed to help photographers effectively communicate with your clients before, during, and after the session or wedding day.

Having your photograph taken can be a very vulnerable experience. Kids and adults alike need to know the expectations to help set them at ease and know what to do. This will also explain how to let your clients feel safe and prepared, resulting in more natural, honest expressions and genuine engagement in your photographs.

Although it benefits everyone, it can be especially helpful for children with trauma backgrounds, sensory processing disorder, special needs, and even adults with nervous jitters about being photographed.

This course will help you learn to make complete plans for a wedding day, plans both in advance of a session and on the fly⁠—as well as how to express that plan to your clients.

In addition to classroom style teaching, this class will also include a demonstration outdoor photo session with opportunities to practice.

If you photograph people with hands that don't know where to go, people who are nervous, people who aren't sure where to stand, kids who have no clue what's going on, teens who wish they were elsewhere, groomsmen with a poor attitude. In short—if you photograph people, this class is for you.

PLP exists to be able to give back to compassionate organizations and ministries around the world. A few years ago, I began cutting used denim with friends to help make shoes for kids in Uganda who are suffering from jiggers, which is a parasite that can damage their feet. Sole Hope is doing amazing work to help heal these kiddos and their families. To ship the cut denim to the Ugandan shoemakers, each shoe needs to be sponsored. I've taken a break for a while, but for my birthday, I was given a new kit and I have loads and loads of denim in my basement that I'd love to cut and send.

A friend has graciously allowed the use of her garden to help us sponsor shoes. For the remainder of the growing season this year*, I'm offering 2 Sole Hope Specials.

1. Zippy Zinnia Sessions- $80, 10 min session with a bouquet, 2 digital files and the flowers to keep (Or all the digitals for $120)- $20 goes to Sole Hope

2. Or add a zinnia bouquet to any session for $20+ donation. 

Great for anniversaries, engagements, mamas, daughters, sisters, friends!

Also, outside of pictures, you can get a small bouquet for $5 or a larger bouquet for $10. Send me a message to coordinate a pickup/delivery.

*As of August 18, the zinnia season is starting to wind down, but still available.